Please stop perpetuating the cycle of hyper-masculinity in your sons. It turns them into awful people that nobody, other than people like them, want to deal with. Being tough, rich, or popular won’t make you a good man. These things will.
Teach them self love. Not cockiness, nor overconfidence, but the vision to see worth in himself even when no one does. A lot of mistakes in my life with school, work, and women, came from a poor sense of self worth. When you feel you deserve better, you will get it.
Teach them emotional maturity. So many men suffer from the nonsensical narrative that “Boys don’t cry” manifesting into the emotional immaturity that plagues most men. They need to know how to deal with emotion, because we all have them. We laugh, we hurt, we love. They’re a part of being human, not to be drowned in liquor, suffocated with smoke, or funneled into rage and the “savagery” that every one thinks is so admirable. Nothing is cool about bottling up and creating problems for yourself and others.
Teach them humility and respect. You may feel like you’d give the earth for him, but that doesn’t entitle him to everything in it. And if your son plans to date women he needs to know that. I hate when I’m leaving parties or nightclubs and I hear the overly aggressive and disrespectful ways that men try to get women’s attention, then hear the even more uncivil manner they respond to rejection. You do not own any woman. She is not indebted to you, and you do not desrve her attention. Respect boundaries. Approach respectfully. Even then they have every right to decline your advances.
Teach them about sex. Sexual education is so important because as humans our very basic function is to reproduce and whether you guide them or not, they will do it. Teach them to be safe. TEACH THEM ABOUT CONSENT! When a woman says “No” that’s the end of it. Zip it up and go home. Teach them about protection.
And finally. Teach them responsibility. My mother always taught me that a man with a family should be able to solve problems, or find somebody that can. This is the easiest tip of all. Can your son tie a tie for an interview? Can he change a tire or oil? Repair a leaky sink or install a shelf? No? Teach them. ANYTHING can be learned online. This post would be 2 more paragraphs if I listed all of the things I’ve learned this year on YouTube. Make him useful lol.
But in all seriousness, these steps go a long way to raising the good men that nobody believes exist. We as men, have to do better. Taking care of our families, and ourselves. We looking bad out here as a unit. I believe we can all do better.
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When freshmen go into the wrong classroom #Naruto
why did the prof’s papers turn into a skateboard
Why is that one guy wearing a backpack sweater combo on his head
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when white actors play PoC suddenly it’s “oh they just wanted the best actor” and “race doesn’t matter to the character” or “they need the star power” no matter how much proof you show about how Race is important to the character or hell the entire story
But when it’s the other way around White people will become ancient anthropologists, have a degree in geothermal studies and astrophysics and pull out ancient real world documentation to tell you why this fictional story set in a world with time travel magic and demons needs to be all white cast because it’s based off of a old 14th century time that has a fairy tale about a goat monster in Ancient Rome during the summer of 1348 and how they were white because the Teutonic plates had shift 2 degrees north.
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found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom
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